Myths & Facts About Surrogacy | Embryon Surrogate Solutions

Surrogacy Myths and FactsSurrogacy Myth: Surrogacy is only for the wealthy or celebrities.

Busted: This myth exists because the cost of surrogacy is almost indeterminable. Surrogate fees and expenses vary substantially depending on several factors such as whether the mother (intended parent) is using her own eggs or if she will need the help of an egg donor. Are there agency fees, or do they have a friend or family member who is willing to carry their baby? The cost of medical care and health insurance is also a huge factor to consider as there are some insurance carriers that exclude surrogacy, in which case, the parents must purchase a policy that is specifically for surrogacy that costs about $30,000. However, there are some surrogate mothers who have excellent health insurance that does not limit or exclude surrogacy—in these cases, there is little or no cost to the parents for any maternity, labor, or delivery of their baby. There are also select fertility centers that offer in-house financing, payment plans, or cash discounts to assist their patients.

Surrogacy Myth: A woman will opt for surrogacy to save her figure or avoid pregnancy.

Busted: Surrogacy is a very emotional and expensive process for a woman to have a baby. A woman typically chooses surrogacy after multiple failed attempts and methods to conceive and carry a baby herself. The decision to continue on to surrogacy is almost always a last resort. There is little to no truth to a woman going through surrogacy to keep her figure. Most women who want to be mothers do not care about temporary weight gain. Having a family is the most important aspect of their lives and our number one priority. Surrogacy is about one woman helping another woman enjoy parenthood, and it has nothing to do with the mom-to-be’s concern for her physical appearance.

Surrogacy Myth: The surrogate may try to take on parental custody of the child.

Busted: Most fertility clinics will request that both the intended parents and the surrogate (and her partner/spouse) undergo a psychological evaluation prior to entering into a surrogacy agreement. If this is not required, it is a good idea to consider it. Working with a reproductive law attorney will also be able to provide you guidance on the state laws surrounding surrogacy and confirm whether that particular state will recognize the intended parents for the child’s parentage. Although the surrogate will nurture your child throughout the pregnancy, surrogates and gestational carriers are aware from the onset that they will not parent or have legal parentage rights of the child.

Surrogacy Myth: I will have trouble bonding with my baby.

Busted: Bonding with the child after birth is something that many intended parents worry over leading up to the pregnancy. The bonding process begins after the child is born, not while in the womb. Once the child is born, he/she is immediately handed over to the intended parents, and that bond will begin to form. It is those who nurture and love the child that secure the forever bond.

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